Boss Lady niloko

Dear KNOT,

Success is indeed measured in the achievements that one get. Iyan ang akala ko. Ang akala ko ay matagumpay na ako na tao kapag nakagraduate na ako ng college, nakapag asawa, nagkaanak ng dalawa, at may magandang trabaho.

Boss Lady nga ang tawag sa akin. Ngunit, nagbago ang lahat nang nagloko na ang aking asawa.

Nagkakilala kami sa trabaho ni Lito (di niya totoong pangalan). Ako ang boss, siya naman, isa sa staff. Masaya ang unang dalawang taon namin. Ngunit, marami na kaming confrontations bago ko nabalitaan na may iba na pala siya. Di ko siya masisi sabi ko sa sarili ko, pangatlo ko na kase siyang asawa, baka naghiganti lang.

Di ko talaga alam, kung bakit in the middle of my relationships, pinapalitan ako.

Ano po ang gagawin ko?

Nagmamahal,

MIA

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Dear Mia,

“No amount of success can compensate failure in the home”. This was a slogan I saw in a big billboard in one of the cities I visited.

Different people have different ways of looking at success. But most individuals equate these with achievements in one’s career, children having finished college and with stable jobs, owning a house and car, economically stable, etc. However, if something about relationships in the family are “broken”, those “success” indicators may be considered as nought or nothing.

Being called “Boss Lady” may give us a picture of a woman who may have a strong personality, someone who may be dominant, bossy, possessing leadership skills or an accomplished person.

Kung napansin mo na sa gitna ng relationships mo ay pinapalitan ka, maari mong pag-isipan kung ano ang mga dahilan bakit ganoon ang nangyayari. Ano kaya ang pattern ng mga circumstance na nag-udyok sa kanila na gawin ito sa iyo?

Nadadala ba sa bahay ang role mo as BOSS ng opisina? Who is the major decision maker between the two of you? Do you earn more than him? Is the man made to feel that you are superior and smarter than him? These are just some of the situations where a man may feel intimidated or insecure. This is because by nature men really want to be considered as the ones being depended on, that they have more power or appear they are the boss, the decision maker, the stronger one.

I invite you to give yourself time and space to look into your deeper self, with all honesty and humility, rediscover the lights and shadows of your relationship. Communication is your lifeblood. Dialogue, in an attitude of openness and acceptance, will surely iron out whatever issues you have. Invoke God’s presence in these trying moments.

God bless you.

Cheng and Ate Emily
KNOT sa DXGN 89.9 Spirit FM