Couples That Do Not Want Children Increase: Exploring the Phenomenon of Voluntary Childlessness

Last May 14, 2024, the Fraternity of the Diocesan Clergy of Davao gathered at the Mergrande Ocean Resort for a thought-provoking discussion led by Reverend Father Orlando Angelia, Family and Life Ministry Director. The topic at hand? The increasing trend of voluntary childlessness, also known as “child-freeness,” which has been gaining traction globally.

Historically, the concept of being childfree dates back to the early 20th century, gaining momentum in the 1970s, particularly among feminist circles. Today, individuals and couples opt out of parenthood for a myriad of reasons, ranging from personal, social, philosophical, to economic factors.

One significant driver of this trend is the changing societal landscape. With advancements in birth control, improved healthcare, and shifting cultural attitudes, people, especially women, have more opportunities for financial independence and career advancement. Additionally, the high costs associated with raising children, coupled with concerns about genetic disorders, mental health, and the impact on personal lifestyles, have contributed to the rise of voluntary childlessness.

Economically, having fewer or no children has become a viable option in modern societies, challenging the traditional notion that a larger population leads to economic prosperity. As countries transition from agrarian to industrial economies, the need for children as sources of labor diminishes, further fueling the decline in birth rates.

Philosophically, movements like antinatalism argue against procreation, viewing it as inherently wrong due to the inherent suffering in life. This perspective challenges the societal expectation that individuals must have children to lead fulfilling lives.

The global landscape reflects this trend, with countries like China, South Korea, and European nations experiencing declining birth rates. In Japan, the issue is particularly acute, with the highest share of childless 50-year-old women among developed countries.

However, these trends raise moral and pastoral implications, especially within the context of religious teachings and cultural norms that value parenthood. Biblical teachings emphasize the importance of procreation, framing children as blessings from God.

The challenge lies in navigating the complexities of responsible parenthood, considering both individual well-being and societal needs. As societal attitudes continue to evolve, the discussion around voluntary childlessness prompts reflection on the meaning of family, fulfillment, and the future of societies worldwide.

This discussion was presented in light of the pastoral challenges faced by clergy when addressing couples who wish to marry but do not plan on having children. Our shepherds, assigned to parishes, must find ways to guide these couples and provide pastoral care without causing offense, yet still align with the teachings of the Church that emphasize the objective of marriage which is to procreate and form a family. It is a delicate balance, requiring wisdom and sensitivity to uphold the doctrinal values while being compassionate and understanding of individual choices.

Rev. Fr. Leonardo Dublan Jr., together with Rev. Fr. Zenon Ampong, both parish priests have strongly suggested of the revision of the pre-nuptial inquiry which will be used during the interview so to include the topic of childlessness.

Another suggestion was for Pangulo sa Kristohanong Banay (PSKB) to conduct informal visitation to couples have been married for 5 years or less. This initiative aims to provide support and guidance, encouraging these couples to consider the blessings of having children. By fostering open discussions about the joys and challenges of parenthood, the PSKB can help couples align their family planning decisions with the teachings of the Church, which emphasize the importance of procreation and the formation of a family.

In conclusion, the rising prevalence of voluntary childlessness highlights the diverse factors shaping individuals’ decisions regarding parenthood. As society grapples with this phenomenon, it underscores the need for nuanced discussions that consider moral, cultural, and economic dimensions, ultimately challenging traditional notions of family and societal expectations. (Grace Ballarta – HCDC Intern)