Husbands Love Your Wives

Husbands, how much do you love your wives? Are you willing to give up even your life for your spouse? Ephesians 5:25 says “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.” Said verse is a very good reminder on how husbands should treat their wives. Husbands make the Lord Jesus Christ as your example and you will never go wrong. Giving up your life include giving time and attention for your wife. Another good example to follow for husbands in dealing with their partner in life is St. Joseph who is the husband of our Blessed Mother Mary whose feast we are celebrating on the 20th of March. St. Joseph is a compassionate, caring and a righteous man (Matthew 1:18-24). To be a compassionate and caring husband is needed to have a harmonious relationship with your spouse. While being righteous is a trait needed in times where husbands as the head of the family will be tested to decide on important matters on your married life. May husbands look up to St. Joseph in order for their relationship with their wives be a successful one.

On the other hand, with their busy schedule maybe husbands find it difficult to find time and attention for their spouse. So, husbands don’t forget to treat your wives just like before you’ve been married where you lavish your wives with so much love, respect and attention. For those who have forgotten, husbands put back romance in your married life. Below are some important ingredients on having a romantic relationship with your spouse from H. Norman Wright’s book (Starting Out Together: A Devotional for Dating and Engaged Couple).

Wright said that a romantic relationship can include several important ingredients. “Romance often includes the element of the unexpected. The routines and tasks of our daily lives consume most of our time and energy. An unexpected romantic surprise can help break up the routine and monotony of the day. Surprises also carry the message, “I’m thinking about you. You’re on my mind. I want your day to be different.” You may develop your own routine for creating special romantic surprises. But beware: Anything that is repeated month after month, year after year, or decade after decade may become a humdrum. Surprising your spouse with dinner out at the same restaurant every pay day may not be as romantic after 20 years! Be sure to look for new restaurants, activities, and ways to say “I love you” that will keep the excitement of the unexpected in your romancing.”

Another element in a romantic relationship is called dating. “Dating means selecting a specific time to be together and making plans for the event. Sometimes a couple may mutually plan the activity or one person may be appointed to plan the date. Most of the time romantic dating will be just for the two of you and not a crowd!” H. Norman Wright suggested that when you are on a date, talk about yourselves and not talk about work or about your children. “Make it a fun time. Laugh and enjoy each other and be a little crazy.”

Also, romance involves daily acts of care, concern, love, speaking your partner’s language, listening and giving each other your personal attention. Such acts convey a message of acceptance and thoughtfulness to your spouse.

Another important element on being romantic involves commitment. Every day of your lives as couples is marked by highs and lows, joys and disappointments. “Romantic feelings will ebb and flow. If commitment to each other is at the heart of the marriage relationship, however, romance will thrive. Mutual commitment creates mutual love response, and commitment is first an exercise of the will based on an attitude of heart.”

May the above ingredients for a romantic relationship help husbands in nurturing your relationship with your wives. Husbands remember also this scriptural passage from 1 Corinthians 11:3 that says “But I want you to understand that Christ is supreme over every man, the husband is supreme over his wife, and God is supreme over Christ.” Putting the Lord Jesus Christ above everything else will ensure a good and harmonious relationship with your wives no matter what difficulties you will encounter in your married life. (Bing Orbeta-Robles)